Can I keep you safe? Motherhood worries

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Motherhood, it comes with so many stresses and so much worry doesn’t it?

t can’t think of a mother who hasn’t laid awake at night worrying about the safety of her children, even if they are sleeping soundly in the room next door. It is something that we do right? Worry. I don’t think you ever worry so much as you do when you’re a mother.

It’s even more prevalent at this time of year – it’s darker, it’s colder and everything just seems a little bit more sinister than summer. This is the first year that we have been totally out numbered by children who want to walk everywhere, or more accurately run in different directions whilst we both scramble to make our minds up as to who is in a more precarious position.

The kids went trick or treating on Monday, obviously with Daddy and I, but Edith insisted on walking everywhere, shrieking at the mere sight of the pushchair like it was laced with itching powder and broken glass. We let her walk purely because we had our toddlepak reigns from trunki, but if we didn’t have these little gems of parental safety, we simply wouldn’t. I don’t think that is helicopter parenting, in fact, if anything I consider myself a bit too laid back as a parent. We will let the kids run wild at parks, Edith goes on bouncy castles at parties that are far too old for her and we don’t stop them from hurting themselves every time because to me that is how they will learn… but that doesn’t mean I don’t fret. It doesn’t mean I don’t walk around with my heart in my mouth praying they will be ok at every turn.

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I think an element of control goes into it too, as much as I may try to avoid the harsh reality that I am a control freak like Adam has told me for the last decade, I really am. I detest when my in-laws take the kids out and are almost always late without letting us know that they will be – or more often than not, letting Adam know who doesn’t pass it on to me. It is in no way a reflection on them, rather that they are all having such a blast, what is 40 minutes after the expected time? To me, it’s 40 minutes of checking travel news and praying they haven’t had an accident on the way home, whilst trying to play it cool and not freak out. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way, I remember talking about something similar once and friend’s agreed they had pre-planned every wild scenario in their heads – from zombie apocalypse (I laughed, but I’ve also done this… The Walking Dead has a bizarre effect on me) to terrorist attacks. What I’ve never managed to figure out is how to cope with those scenarios that I can’t pre-plan and can’t mentally prepare for.

It’s one thing to make sure that your child is safe at a bonfire night display by keeping them in the pushchair or on their reigns, but it’s a whole other thing to fret about what would happen in the unthinkable… yet there you are, thinking about it, because it your mind it helps to have a plan – even if you can’t really make a plan where it all goes alright.

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I guess the thing is that when you have something so precious, you really can’t bare to think that something could happen to it. Our children are the most precious commodity we will ever know, they will forever mean more to us than we could put into words.

Does anyone else struggle with the fear of not being able to keep your kids safe? Sometimes I find it overwhelming and I really do struggle with it.

H x


  1. Avatar November 8, 2016 / 7:58 pm

    I am not a mum myself but I know if I was I would be a massive worrier! My mum still is for me now at 28! haha

  2. Avatar November 6, 2016 / 7:09 pm

    You mother like I do I think, fairly free but whine came to toddler reins we chose to use them as well. Just that safety as he was learning to walk and didn’t understand about wider dangers once he learnt to run. We loved our trunki pak. x

  3. Avatar November 4, 2016 / 12:11 am

    I’m a control freak too. If mine were 40 minutes late I would panic just as much, it’s awful isn’t it but quite a few of us do it x

  4. Avatar November 3, 2016 / 8:02 pm

    I am a control freak too and I still worry about my son and he’s 19! You never stop worrying about your kids lol

  5. Avatar November 3, 2016 / 4:16 pm

    Those reigns are so cute. I’m a relatively new Mum and I obsess over keeping Max safe. I triple check his car seat after strapping him in and always creep in his room at night to check his breathing. God knows what I’ll be like when he can start walking. Jo x

  6. Avatar November 3, 2016 / 11:19 am

    I like Edith’s reign, mine certainly wasn’t a cute. I think my mum and grandmother faced those fears with me, as soon as I could walk – pushchair – no. Reign – yes. I think I’d be a worrying parent, I mean you should see me when my nan disappears and doesn’t call LOL!

  7. Avatar November 3, 2016 / 8:14 am

    I think it’s a very common, and wholly understandable, worry. My mum always says she *still* worries about my siblings and me!

  8. Avatar November 2, 2016 / 11:31 pm

    I have this fear every single day, even more so now that my daughter is older and I’m not always with her and the fact she travels to and from school by herself. If she doesn’t call me to tell me she’s left school and is on the bus my mind goes into overdrive from anything from was she naughty and got a detention (so unlike her) to kidnapping to being stabbed by a bunch of youths because it’s all you ever hear about in the news in our area. The sheer panic and worry, especially when she doesn’t answer her phone just sends me into meltdown mode because I just have no idea what I would do if anything, even the smallest and simplest thing happened to her x

  9. Avatar November 2, 2016 / 10:55 pm

    I think it’s totally normal to worry about kids and I don’t think you ever stop no matter what age they are.

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    November 2, 2016 / 9:02 pm

    I find myself often thinking the worst, the what could happens! Since becoming a parent I’m so much more aware of all the bad and its frightening!!

  11. Avatar November 2, 2016 / 7:46 pm

    I don’t have kids but I can appreciate the anxiety about protecting the most precious person in your life.

  12. Avatar November 2, 2016 / 2:03 pm

    It’s my worry too, especially as my son gets older and wants and needs more freedom,. It’s such a terrible world out there, you just want to protect your loved ones.

  13. Avatar November 2, 2016 / 12:25 pm

    I think it’s natural to worry as parents, I’m such a worrier as it is, I can’t imagine how much worse I’ll get once I have children! x

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    Cassandra Mayers
    November 2, 2016 / 11:00 am

    I know exactly how you feel. Its so hard not to worry over everything. Yesterday I was worried over the fact that she wouldn’t wear her blanket in the ram or have her hood up, and it got really cold. I also have had horrible zombie apocalypse visions where i plan what i would do, also worry about what i would do in a fire and dont get me started with terrorist attacks. I live in London and use tubes with Lily and that always scares me!

  15. Avatar November 2, 2016 / 10:32 am

    I don’t have kids myself but I know my parents used to worry loads when me and my brother were younger, and that doesn’t change all that much when we grew up x

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