The crazy way I met my husband

how I met my husbandIf you’re not really the Valentine’s loving type, I’m probably driving you crazy by now, but bare with me, the time for less mushy stuff is almost over.

I wanted to share with you how I met my husband, the handsome goofball in the picture who is making me laugh my head off. That wasn’t staged by the way. I asked my mum to take a picture of us for instagram, we were both supposed to be looking at his new gift, The Book of Everyone, which is an absolutely epic personalised book that gives him a plethora of little facts about his life such as how many times his heart has beat since he was born, what happened on the day he was born etc, and with it being a Valentine’s Day edition it allowed me to share dates about our lives together – our song, our first dates, what I love and loathe about him. You know, the mushy stuff. Anyway, I was doing my best Instagram face, staring what I thought was lovingly at him and he suddenly turned to me and announced that I was “going full out stalker”, at which point we both couldn’t stop laughing.

So, here goes, how I met my husband.

How I met my husband

When I was 18 years old, I was young and foolish (what? A young, foolish 18 year old? Never heard of one of those…) and I fell in love with a man a lot older than me who had a lot of problems and was all round a bit of a tit. He wasn’t cruel or abusive, just very introverted and had issues with keeping his trousers zipped up… something I didn’t know until after I married him. Yep, at the age of 18 I decided to take a leap and married someone who wasn’t right for me and who I wasn’t right for. At the time I wanted to have the princess wedding and chose a beautiful venue, where a certain events coordinator would enter the picture: Adam.

Now before you cover your mouths in shock and think ill of me, there is a lot more to the story than that.

How I met my husband

Adam was the event coordinator at the venue of my first wedding and that is where we first met. Unbeknownst to me at the time, he’d told my mother that he thought I was beautiful and my groom wasn’t the one for me, that one day he would be. He said he’d just got a feeling that one day our paths would lead us together – bizarre right?

How I met my husband

Anyhoo, fast forward 8 months later and my then husband decided to move out and shack up with his friend’s girlfriend. You couldn’t make it up really could you? Think Emmerdale levels of drama and your getting close. It was a hell of a shock, I had no clue at all that they had been having an affair, and like most young girls who thought they’d settled down for life with the ever elusive “one” I was heartbroken. My best friend was determined to cheer me up and took me out to party away the blues, dance my sorrow away and over time it worked, it really did. I felt like I was normal, a very a-typical teen again and I started to really heal. I remember being out with friends one Halloween weekend in 2007, boozing it up and dancing the night away when I bumped into a familiar face – Adam. Being local, we were both likely to cross paths at some time or another and even now a decade on, Adam will still bump into people who remember him running their wedding, family member’s funerals or even birthday parties. He came over, politely said hello and asked how married life was treating me. I replied “It’s not. He left me”, and I will never forget him looking me dead in the eye, smiling and saying “Well, he’s a fool then.” I still can’t think about it without smiling.

We danced, we drank and we went home together, just like a lot of clubbers do. The difference was, Adam never left. He moved in 2 days later, sorted his affairs at home and the most we’ve ever been apart is two/three nights since, ten years on. Three kids, countless career changes, one mortgage and 2 dogs later, we’re still here and he still looks at me the same way he used to.

How I met my husband

I guess I wanted to share this because, like one of the quotes in my Book of Everyone for Adam says, Life is can be a fairytale. We don’t live a fairytale life, we’ve had terrible lows and we’ve had heartbreak, despair and hate filled moments that have really tested us. We didn’t ride off into the sunset on a magic carpet so much as work together to push our slightly buggered skoda circa 74′ up the hill. Marriage is work, marriage is hard but I do truly believe that love can be a fairytale, and I do believe in “the one” because he truly is mine.

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H x

78 Comments

  1. Justine Meyer
    September 26, 2018 / 9:26 am

    Beautiful thanks for sharing x

  2. Charlie beswick
    June 13, 2017 / 10:11 pm

    Aaaah the bit when he said your ex was a fool!! Very Love Actually!
    Love your blog xx

  3. May 22, 2017 / 11:11 pm

    What a gorgeous love story indeed hunny good to hear how you met and started your lives together.

  4. March 5, 2017 / 11:23 pm

    Laughed out loud of this and wondered whether I dare to write a post about me and the other half met. We worked for the same organisation and initially he was my union rep, always getting me out of various pickles. Years later when we got together, people asked whether he knew what he was letting himself in for. He said ‘Yep’ and he actually did 😀

  5. February 3, 2017 / 12:25 am

    Wow, what a lovely story! I wish mine was that romantic hehe 😛

  6. January 24, 2017 / 11:21 am

    This is adorable! The beginning was a little familair to something off the soaps – I will agree – but it really did change for the better for you! Awww, just too cute!
    Kayleigh x

  7. January 23, 2017 / 5:00 pm

    I loved, loved, loved reading your story! It goes to show that no matter what drama might ensue, what is meant to be will be. Thanks for being so open and sharing! xx

  8. January 23, 2017 / 3:53 pm

    Your ex-husband is a tool but without him you wouldn’t have met your now-husband. You two look so happy together too!

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 7:25 pm

      Thanks Daniella – we are I think 🙂 x

  9. January 23, 2017 / 1:13 pm

    This is such a beautiful story and truly made me smile. I love it how he had that gut feeling about you and dared to say it even on your first wedding!
    Love is truly magical and finds its way no matter what! Keep your love strong for each other and you will overcome the challenges of life and will grow ever stronger together :))

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:34 pm

      Ahh thank you lovely x

  10. Lynne Harper
    January 23, 2017 / 1:08 pm

    What a fabulous story, i love hearing how people have gotten together 🙂 you guys look so incredibly happy and made for each other, life always hits us some curve balls but you have gotten through them 🙂 x

  11. January 23, 2017 / 12:48 pm

    I LOVE THIS. This is/ was your fairytale, it just reminds me that if things are meant to be they’re meant to be. It gives me hope that to just keep going and when you least expect it the one comes along xo

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:35 pm

      Thank you lovely – very much a fairytale I think!

  12. Jemma
    January 23, 2017 / 8:19 am

    Lovely photo of yourselves and what a fabulous story of how you met.

  13. January 22, 2017 / 11:35 pm

    Made my day. Not only do you do hilarious awesome Insta stories but you have a romantic side too… who knew 😉 love this! xxx

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:42 pm

      Haha thanks lovely! Jack of all trades over here 😉

  14. January 22, 2017 / 11:25 pm

    That story is amazing! I’m sorry you had a shit fiancee but also I’m so glad he left because it meant that you got your true fairytale and the right man for you. I’m not even a romantic or mushy person and I’m at my computer smiling away going awwwww

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:42 pm

      Ahh thanks Tanya 🙂 x

  15. January 22, 2017 / 7:03 pm

    What am absolutely beautiful fairy tale story! It literally brought tears to my eyes. Clearly you were soulmates xx

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:43 pm

      I think we were Tanya xx

  16. January 22, 2017 / 6:43 pm

    oh this is just utterly cute and I love the picture – Its a perfect love story as it shows that mistakes happen and we can change

  17. January 22, 2017 / 6:28 pm

    This is such an amazing story, it definitely sounds like it should be made into a movie.

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:43 pm

      Haha that would be crazy!

  18. January 22, 2017 / 6:27 pm

    Sounds like you and Adam were meant to be! Glad you get your happily ever after! x

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:43 pm

      I think we were lovely xx

  19. January 22, 2017 / 5:20 pm

    Ahhh that’s so lovely! I want a romantic story <3

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:44 pm

      I hope you get one xx

  20. January 21, 2017 / 10:42 am

    What a lovely story! I love hearing stories like this, a real life fairytale with a happily ever after which are hard work but so worth it!

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:47 pm

      Ahh thanks lovely xx

  21. January 21, 2017 / 9:19 am

    I loved reading this! I’m so pleased you’re happy now. Nick and me have been together for 10 years, but we met when we were 17/18 when we worked together… he hadn’t a clue who I was and I really fancied him… lucky for me we crossed paths years later when I had grown up because I always looked much younger. Now we are married and planning the next steps of our lives.

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:47 pm

      Oh how lovely Annie!

  22. January 20, 2017 / 11:20 pm

    Awwww thats so sweet. My mummy met daddy on millennium eve and hasn’t looked back since. They went to the same uni, worked in the same bar and did the same course…..four years apart….spooky!

  23. January 20, 2017 / 10:18 pm

    Awww this is such a lovely story. It sounds like a movie! <3 xxx

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:50 pm

      Thanks Franki 🙂

  24. Dani
    January 20, 2017 / 8:10 pm

    What an amazing story!
    I really enjoyed reading this blog post 🙂

    Dani x

  25. January 20, 2017 / 7:23 pm

    Aww what a beautiful romantic love story, its the sort you expect a movie to be made of.

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 1:51 pm

      Ah thanks Nayna x

  26. Kristina Maggiora
    January 20, 2017 / 6:43 pm

    awwwww this post brought a smile to my face 🙂 Loved it! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  27. Laura H
    January 20, 2017 / 5:11 pm

    Wow I can’t believe that story! Sounds like fate. It’s great that you managed to bump into him again later on and that you’re still together 10 years on!

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 2:03 pm

      I really think it was fate x

  28. hannah
    January 20, 2017 / 5:05 pm

    I enjoyed reading this. It’s a great story about how you met him

  29. January 20, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    That is a great story! It sounds like a good movie actually. Much better than my husband and I’s story of meeting online! lol

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 2:05 pm

      Ahh thanks Carmen!

  30. Kate
    January 20, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    Lovely story. Not that different from mine – except I’d had a baby with the wrong man before he left me. Mr Right waited in the wings for 7yrs before I realised he was my lobster. Xx

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 2:05 pm

      Ahh I love that you call him your lobster!

  31. January 20, 2017 / 2:49 pm

    So enjoyed reading this! What a fab meet story!

  32. January 20, 2017 / 1:58 pm

    I married at 16 it didn’t last he was also a tit. I love your love story it is a modern day fairytale. I would love to win one of these and I’d probably make this for my boyfriend if not myself because he is bound to forget Valentines day x

    • Harriet January 23, 2017 / 2:07 pm

      Ahh thank you Jade x

  33. January 20, 2017 / 1:16 pm

    I’m not a romantic person, but reading your story gave me goosebumps. This is incredible! What a lovely story x

    • Harriet January 20, 2017 / 1:54 pm

      Ahh thank you Jodie xx

  34. January 20, 2017 / 12:04 pm

    What a fabulous story, and no you could not make that up! I love hearing everyone’s love stories and how they met their loved ones! I LOVE the photo of you two laughing, that’s exactly what my husband would do and say too ha ha

    • Harriet January 20, 2017 / 12:37 pm

      Me too Evija, it’s lovely to read them. Thank you x

  35. January 20, 2017 / 10:45 am

    I would give this to Russell – we met at playgroup aged 2 now 24 and going on 4 years! Small town life 😳

    • Harriet January 20, 2017 / 12:37 pm

      That’s lovely!

  36. January 20, 2017 / 10:45 am

    What a lovely post! Thanks for sharing, gives me hope that ‘the one’ for me is out there somewhere! x

  37. January 20, 2017 / 10:25 am

    That is such a cute story. I am very much a believer in if something is meant to be it will be, and your story proves this. If I won the book I’d get it for my other half as I truly believe we both found each other for a reason and even though I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time, or even to spend that much time with someone it just felt (and feels) right x

  38. January 20, 2017 / 9:06 am

    I love this story! Such a crazy way to meet, but totally proves that fate is real, right?! This book sounds awesome, I’d love to win one for my husband. Definitely going to do one for my mum for Mother’s day too!

    • Harriet January 20, 2017 / 12:38 pm

      Thanks! Yes mother’s day is a great time to do one!

  39. Luna's mum
    January 20, 2017 / 8:33 am

    Amazing meet up story
    My husband was my student….don’t worry I’m not a school boy catcher he was a fully grown adult taking English lessons in Italy!

    • Harriet January 20, 2017 / 12:54 pm

      Haha How cool is that one!? The looks you must get 😉

  40. January 20, 2017 / 6:10 am

    That is an absolutely fantastic love story, it actually sounds like the plot of a book or movie! Your mum must have thought him mad when he told her that one day he would be the one for you. I’m so glad you shared this.

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