I’ve always like the idea of “dating my husband”, I think all too often the routine takes over and you end up being more flat mates that occasionally have sex (very occasionally) like that “friend” you may or may not have had in your early twenties. Ahem.
We “date” as often as we can really, spending time together is tough and even more so when you both work full time and have 3 kids, but it’s important so we do our best to go out for meals, head to the cinema or just take a trip into the city for some shopping and a bit of a break from the kids. When I’m with Adam and it’s just us, it’s easy to remember why I fell in love with him and why I’m still in love with him nearly a decade on… but there are those times that we haven’t been able to spend any “grown up” time together for a few months other than stolen minutes at 10pm when we are both splayed out on the sofa, exhausted and unable to really appreciate the time. What happens then, if you don’t have childcare, or you simply can’t get OUT out for a date because it costs a fortune that you just don’t have?
Bring the date to you.
How? I hear you cry! How can you bring a date to you? Simple… Netflix and chill was not built on cinema dates friends, but on bringing the date to the home.
So, ideas for bringing the date to you?
- Dinner date
It doesn’t really matter who the cook is in the house, or if you buy take away. Put the kids in bed, or better yet send them to family/friends for the night , and have a proper dinner together. I’m talking get dressed up, set the table, light candles and drink good wine TOGETHER. You might not have the luxury of going out and being waited on but sod it, you have each other and a meal for £10 from M&S is just as romantic done right.
- Convert your garden into a romantic space.
Best thing about converting a garden? You are actually getting out OUT without having to have a babysitter as you can put the kids in bed and take the monitor outside. If you have decent weather, take some food outside, blankets and candles. Snuggle up on your garden seats, blanket and just enjoy the fresh air. It doesn’t have to be for ages but it puts a stop to the staring at the TV and getting the glaze.
- Convert your garden shed or even garage into a bar.
So the weather is shite and you can’t use the garden? No dramas, take inspo from the London Hot Gin bar that just opened up and create a mini bar in your concrete shed like these from lidget. No, I’m totally not having you on, all you need is blankets, candles (perhaps a patio warmer if it’s mega cold) and garden sofas. Or a blanket on the floor with cushions. I loved this idea because it brings back memories of our first family holiday where we would put the sprogs to bed, make our way out to the balcony and have a few cocktails. In this case, hot cocktails (or even hot chocolate) are a dream come true.
- Slumber party
Go retro and indulge your inner big kid! Get the bambinos in bed, order a pizza (or if your local pizzeria is as bad at delivering the right order as mine, buy one at the super market and cook it!), get into bed and watch a movie together while you eat your pizza! Not that kind of movie… dirty beasts.
- Have an indoor picnic
We do this frequently for the kids, like once or two a month and even once or twice a week in the holidays. It’s fun and they love it – so why shouldn’t grown ups? Crack out the vino, buy all the delicious snack style food, lay out a blanket and some cushions and either watch a movie or just enjoy talking away until bedtime.
What are your favourite ideas for dating your husband IN the house?