There has been quite a bit in the media of late, especially after career blogger Perez Hilton posted snaps of him and his son in the shower together, about nudity and bathing/showering with children. It’s something I’ve never understood and the fact that it seems to be quite common for people to be against nudity around kids or bathing with kids, completely and utterly baffles me.
For me, nudity is natural, especially for children. We quite often get comments from friends or close family because all three children run around our house and garden in the nude. We call it nudey-rudey in our home, we make a joke of it and none of us find it odd. At the end of the day, these children are of my flesh, they grew inside me and they came out of my vagina… Naked. I’m pretty sure their nudity isn’t an issue.
Obviously I’m talking about little children and their nudity. The boys or Edith might find that as they get older they aren’t comfortable being naked around us, and if that time comes, we may not wish to be nude around them, but the truth is, I’m not going to freak out if the kids walk into the room as I’m changing when they are teens. They are forever a part of me, and I am of them. To find nudity in front of children, or your children nude in front of you, embarrassing or uncomfortable is worrying in my mind. I find it indicative of something concerning, something sinister. I just don’t understand it.
I also find the whole ‘bathing with children is wrong’ stance completely weird. In what reality could it be ‘wrong’ or ‘weird’ unless you make it so? Is there something inherently sexual about nudity? I don’t think so. I frequently have a bath or shower with the kids, and so does Adam. It’s just a normal part of our daily routine and half of the time the kids will climb into the bath with me, despite being very much uninvited! Ha, we’ve all been there right? You’ve seen the mum memes!
To further this train of thought, I often think that mums are able to bathe or shower with their kids but dads are considered unable. Why? A man hasn’t grown a baby, hasn’t birthed a baby, but that baby is as much a physical part of him as it is of mum. I’ve discussed this at length with Adam and before we had Edith he never thought anything to it, but now he has a daughter he has mentioned that he doesn’t think he would be able to have her in the shower with him in the way he does the boys at school age, purely for fear of what others may say or do. He’s also discussed it with Daddy pals and they have (for the majority) said the same thing. Personally, I’m a fuck it kind of gal, it really isn’t important to me what others think, but I can understand why a grown man would fear allegations that something more than just a Dad cleaning (because, you know, that’s kind of the function of a shower) his child, especially with media witch hunts and the seemingly snap happy judgements of keyboard warriors. Can we grow up and stop assuming that everyone is a sexual predator? They aren’t, especially when it comes to their own kids.
Lastly, I sleep nude. I always have (unless it’s freezing, in which case I will chuck a top on.) I also co-sleep with my daughter and have two little boys that frequently climb into bed with me. I make no apology for this or feel strange about it. I guess as the boys get older if they don’t want to come into bed and snuggle, they won’t… But I won’t change the way I have been for the last 20 years to please them.
I’d love to know your thoughts on this? Do you allow your kids to see you nude? Do you bathe/shower with them?