There is something about those words that can really lift a woman, you know? This past weekend I went to BritMumsLive and, despite a few let downs, I had a really lovely time meeting people and cementing friendships. I was nominated for an award (which I didn’t win but it did go to the fabulous The Dad Network – and I got to have a chat with Jen from the couple collab who I absolutely adored.) so I went back to the hotel before the end of the conference to don a pretty dress and make myself feel a bit special before boarding a Thames cruise at the after party award ceremony. I think as mums we don’t really do that enough do we?
There is something about feeling pretty and dressing up that can really lift a woman, really help you feel better about yourself – especially when you’re doing it for YOURSELF. I went away, I spent more than 4.2 seconds on my make up and I put on the fanciest dress I’ve owned since before I had the kids. The truth is, I don’t really go many places anymore where I can get dressed up – where I can put on a pretty dress and feel a little bit special. Mundane life tends to take over – the school run, parents evening, cooking dinner, working, working some more… go to sleep… rinse and repeat.
That becomes life doesn’t it? There should be more to it, we know there should, but when do we get the time for that “more” to happen?
For me, feeling fancy in a pretty dress and having my ego fluffed repeatedly by strangers and friends alike has been really REALLY good for my self confidence and has helped my dispel a lot of really negative feelings that have cropped up around my body image. I am not a natural health food lover or dieter – I will confess to crash dieting on numerous occasions. I’ve written about it before but after Edith, I seemed to become less confident somehow – I lost weight and then gained it as fast as I had lost it, I started to feel less attractive. I have read so many posts about body confidence and how we should be proud of these amazing bodies that grew our children, that gave the gift of life and I just couldn’t quite bring myself to embrace that – to actually feel that way. These posts weren’t written for me, they were written for people who had maybe made peace with the changes in their bodies and who were genuinely happy with the way they were – to encourage others to feel that way, but they really only ever left me feeling a sense of “what is wrong with me? Why don’t I feel proud of my body and it’s changes!?”.
Getting dolled up this weekend and feeling attractive, truly proud of the way I looked and not embraced by being on camera but in fact quite delighted to jump in front, has been so good for my soul. It’s not changed the way I feel about myself or my lack of confidence in my bodily changes, but it has given me a new sense of appreciation for myself. It’s given me the drive to say that every so often, maybe I should just take an hour to myself and do my hair and make up – even if it’s for a family day out on a Sunday, who cares?!
It might not be the pretty clothes for you, it might not be the make up or the hair or even the kind compliments. Whatever it is though that helps you feel more confident about yourself – you need to go with that, you need to allow yourself to feel that buzz.
H 🙂 x
FYI, my dress is by Chi Chi London. I wasn’t sponsored by them in any way, I was purely gifted the beautiful dress. Lastly, I’m with my lovely friend Amy Treasure in these pictures. She is always a glamour puss!