My Water Babies :: Water Confidence :: Why it’s so important and how to get it.

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Daddy throwing Toby… this was one of the lower throws. I shit you not.

After our little trip to Center Parcs last week I’ve been sharing pictures of the kids and their fun in the pool on my social. I’ve had a few comments and emails from people asking me advice on how to boost your child’s water confidence (incidentally we had a few comments from people while we were there – especially with Edie in the big pool and not batting an eyelid when we put her on the ledge to hold on and take the above photo) so I thought it might be useful to write about it here.

My Water Babies :: Water Confidence :: Why it's so important and how to get it. via Toby & Roo :: daily inspiration for stylish parents and their kids.

Using my underwater iPhone case, Roo was so proud of his diving ability this time around.

My Water Babies :: Water Confidence :: Why it's so important and how to get it. via Toby & Roo :: daily inspiration for stylish parents and their kids.

We use little dive sticks, Neil the seal rings or toys for the boys to dive and get – it’s one of their favourite things to do, but always seems to inspire a mix of awe and horror from passersby!

I can’t take credit for the kids water confidence, I really can’t. We have been swimming with Water Babies North Yorkshire (who I am a brand rep for) since they were tiny and the credit for their water confidence rests firmly on the shoulders of Stella and her team. Reuben started swimming when he was 8 weeks old – it was a programme that I had seen and heard about whilst working for Mothercare when I was pregnant with him and I booked him on the course before he was even here! We instantly loved it, it was evident from the start that it was his “thing” but not for every baby. Gentle perseverance and a lot of smiles and cuddles, plus confidence and positivity from the parent swimming with the little one soon brought the little ones around. Roo swam with Stella for a total of 4 years, at which point he left Water Babies to move on to swimming without me in the pool with him. Despite friend’s who told us that their kids could do the same and had never had to “fork out” for baby swimming, he soon proved everyone wrong and joined in the class (after much pushing from me because most swim classes are done on age not ability) with a group of 6-7 year olds. What we figured out when we went swimming this time at Center Parcs is that Roo can now swim a full length of the pool without aids. He can dive, he can climb out safely and he shows us each time that we can rest assured that he is safe in the water.

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Toby started a bit later at 16 weeks and is still in the program, enjoying a mid saturday afternoon class with Stella. He has come on in leaps and bounds (despite water wobbles, which are very common, late last year) and his technique improves weekly. Toby doesn’t seem to be quite as much of a natural as Roo was at swimming, but he enjoys the classes so much. He is a dab hand at arm technique and when we went to Center Parcs we discovered that he can also swim to safety from the middle of the pool and (though not quite a full length) can swim a very impressive distance at 3 years old. Like Reuben he likes to be under the water more than above it, which often leads to amused comments from others – he really is a little fish at heart.

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Lastly, Edie, who out of all of my children seems to have been the least “natural” and doesn’t actually like being underwater all that much. We don’t force it, no Water Babies class ever would and her teacher Amelia is wonderful at putting her at ease, making her smile and knows whether or not the little ones are happy to go under the water or not. Sometimes not, and thats ok. Edie doesn’t get upset at going under, quite the opposite and at 13 months she can kick her way to the surface, hold on to the side and wait for help.


For us, water confidence has been built over years of showing the children that water isn’t something to be feared and going under isn’t a big deal. I personally hate being under water and have to hold my nose each time, so it hasn’t come from my ability to show them how fun that is! I do have a few tips that I have picked up along the way though:

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Three ages, three stages and a bucket full of confidence!

  • Big smiles – never underestimate the importance of a smile. When you go swimming you need to create a positive environment with good vibes that your little one can feed off.
  • Try not to over react – easier said than done. Adam freaked out when we were in Center Parcs and Edie slipped over when paddling. She went straight under and I didn’t pick her up straight away because I had toby on my lap and couldn’t grab her at that angle… but she was fine! She wasn’t under for more than 2 seconds and when we picked her up she was fine! No tears… unless you count Adam’s panic tears. Truth is, children are resilient – I’m not suggesting you chuck them in the deep end at 2 weeks old and hope they paddle up to the surface but I am suggesting if they do splash under the water then try not to show your horror and remember to smile and make sure they know it wasn’t a big deal. Again I’m not talking about accidents or serious situations but those similar to ours above.
  • Persist – So you join a swim class, give it 3-4 goes and your little one isn’t keen. That’s normal. They will start to enjoy themselves eventually, and remember, you’re mummy/daddy – if they don’t like one aspect then talk to your teacher and explain that you won’t be doing that part because they don’t like it. Simple and they will eventually get on with it like the rest of the class.
  • Don’t push – similar to persisting, persisting in the right way is key. If you are in a Water Babies swim class your teacher will guide you and they will know if your little one is up for going under or doing other bits and bobs, but if you are alone and you don’t think they are having fun, change it up. Avoid going under and let them focus on parts they do enjoy.

Those really are my only tips, do you have any others? What do your kids think to swimming?

H x


  1. Avatar March 16, 2016 / 10:52 pm

    Great tips! My son took years and years to be happy in the water, no matter what we did he just hated getting water in his ears. Then suddenly it clicked, and he was happy and swimming away!

    • Harriet March 16, 2016 / 11:04 pm

      Thanks Stephanie! It’s a gentle persistence thing isn’t it? H x

  2. Avatar March 15, 2016 / 8:27 am

    Teaching kids to swim is so important for confidence and safety. My little one has been swimming since 3 months and he loves it.

    • Harriet March 15, 2016 / 3:12 pm

      Oh bless him, it’s great to see them grow in confidence isn’t it?! H x

  3. Avatar March 13, 2016 / 7:50 pm

    Aah this makes me feel a little bit sad!! My boys are OBSESSED with the water β€” and they love to be in a pool β€” but as they’re twins, unless I can get someone to come with me, it’s very difficult to take them swimming, so as a result, they’ve hardly been. I’d have loved to take them to WaterBabies!!

    • Harriet March 14, 2016 / 10:59 am

      Awh that would be so hard! I always said if we had twins I couldn’t because hubs is away on most saturdays πŸ™ H x

  4. Avatar March 13, 2016 / 5:57 pm

    That’s fantastic! What fantastic photos too πŸ™‚

  5. Avatar March 13, 2016 / 12:56 pm

    Wow what confident little water babies you have.. my little boy loves the water however my little girl isn’t a fan, we’ve tried to take her when on holiday but you doesn’t seem to like it and normally as soon as she sees the water she refuses to get in πŸ™ ,, really hoping to improve on this thou xx

    • Harriet March 13, 2016 / 1:08 pm

      Oh bless her – just keep trying, don’t push and I’m sure it will come when she sees how much you guys love it H x

  6. Avatar March 13, 2016 / 11:35 am

    The caption on your first photo cracked me up! My boys are late to learning to swim. I can’t swim – well I can as I learnt but nearly drowned when I was 10 so am now too scared. Ian is a brilliant swimmer so I asked him to take Noah swimming as we couldn’t afford lessons at the time, but he was useless at taking him. He’s just turned 3 and has been going to swim classes for 2 months now, he hates it when he first gets in the pool but then loves it. I think it’s so important for children to learn to swim and be able to swim strongly. I’ve got Jude on the waiting list for his age group now, he’s 17 months so again he’s late to learn but it’s never too late eh!x

    • Harriet March 13, 2016 / 1:31 pm

      Oh Sian what an awful experience to have. I think whatever you do, getting them into the water is always a good thing πŸ™‚ Hx

  7. Avatar March 12, 2016 / 3:20 am

    Mine are awful at swimming, we started so late with lessons. Wish I had known about water babies when they were younger. Great photos too πŸ™‚

    • Harriet March 13, 2016 / 1:35 pm

      Thank Elaine, I’m sure it will come too! Hx

  8. Avatar March 11, 2016 / 7:39 pm

    Totally agree. My three are all water babies, it’s so important to start early and persever. They definitely smell your fear, it’s so important to be calm. Love your pictures x

    • Harriet March 11, 2016 / 9:25 pm

      Thanks Sonia – it’s a wonderful thing to what them grow in confidence isn’t it?! H x

  9. Avatar March 11, 2016 / 12:00 pm

    We take Blake to swimming lessons I definitely think learning to swim young is a great idea.
    That way they can slowly get confident. Blake at nearly 15 months loves going in the pool and hates coming out.

    • Harriet March 11, 2016 / 1:39 pm

      Aw bless him, mine hate coming out too! H x

  10. Avatar March 11, 2016 / 11:11 am

    I LOVE the action shot of Daddy throwing Toby! I really wish we’d stuck to Waterbabies with my two as now my son is older my confident little fish has turned into a scaredy cat, but my independent stubborn Daughter was determined never to go under! They do like swimming pools now and I’m confident we’ll have little swimmers, but you’re right, don’t push.

    • Harriet March 11, 2016 / 1:40 pm

      Oh bless them! Yes, absolutely never push them, keep it fun and friendly – pushing is the opposite of what you should do. H x

  11. Avatar March 11, 2016 / 9:15 am

    Those photos though!!! Love love love! I’m the same as you, water confidence was important to me so I had J swimming from a baby. I dunked him every time we went too so now hes like a little water baby. And you’re so right about not overreacting, even if we don’t like what’s happening we mustn’t let them see! x

    • Harriet March 11, 2016 / 10:08 am

      Thanks Ally, I love these pictures – they are such little cuties and really come alive in the water xx

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