When your baby is born and you are tuned well, you might feel that your baby wants to be held all of the time. And you do it. You grab a sandwich whilst holding your new born, you go everywhere with your baby in arms. You open the door to the postman and you hardly have a free moment. And what is more, you do not have a hand-free moment.
Every time I teach a new mum how to use a sling, she puts the wrap up, gets baby, finishes the carry and she starts shining. I can see how her face changes. She calms down, she feels balanced again. But she still holds baby and won’t let her go. Then – in a brave moment – she tries to reach for something on the table. She holds something in her hand and then something else in her other hand. She is able to go to the kitchen, open a bottle of water, get a glass and serve herself. She is actually having a glass of water without help, without any difficulty or without putting baby down.
When I ask her how she feels, she tells me “Wonderful” fighting her tears. “I have two free hands. I can do so many things and I can still hold her.”
So, this is the first thing you notice. Then as time goes, you realise that you do not have to compromise. You can offer a choice to your child and you do not have to say: “Sorry, I cannot cuddle you now”. Your limits are stretched out really far away.
And if you read more, talk more, learn more about babywearing, skin-to-skin contact and attachment, you become familiar with a whole new world.
I recommend an article for you to read about „Why carry?” http://novababycarriers.com/why-carry/
It tells it all.
Take care and give your hands a chance to set free.