For Katie.

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I am not usually the type of person to get particularly upset by “news”, in fact, I’m a down right apathetic person at times, especially when it comes to the murder and mayhem that the BBC seem to thrust at me every time I check the app. It’s depressing and I’ve always maintained that getting involved in other people’s grief, crying over something that happened on the news or joining in with remembrance threads on facebook when you didn’t know the person is really just a means of voyeurism and so unnecessary. I don’t #prayfor on twitter and I tend to just talk about it with friend’s or family on a “oh isn’t that sad” level, but rarely do I feel any deep sadness.

And then there is Katie Rough.

If you haven’t heard, Katie was murdered last week – with a 15 year old charged for her murder , two weeks after her parent’s wedding where she was a bridesmaid. This happened in an area that is 20 minutes from my home, an area where little happens and scandals sleep. Katie was 7 years old. 2 years older than Reuben but young looking for her age, and perhaps its just the way that the media have portrayed her with clever choices of pictures, but she looks fragile and innocent, like all young children do. She was collected from school and it is believed led to a park behind the family home, slit her throat and left her face down in the mud for her mother to find her, still alive and dying.

I suspect that is why this has upset me so; the proximity to home, the heartless nature of the murder, that the murder was committed by a 15 year old rumoured to be a relation. The fact that this child is so close in age to my own sons. The fact that her mother found her, not dead yet dying and could do nothing. The whole thing has left a sadness across the community, and yes, life moves on with little thought for the 9 day wonder that was a little girl who was brutally murdered, but there is still something that will remind you, in the way that the Saddleworth moors will forever give me chills every time I pass.

Life is a sad thing, it’s brutal and coarse, and I suppose this event has made me take a step back and really, truly appreciate the things I have. I feel like I sigh too much, shout too much and generally allow day to day frustrations to get in the way of expressing my feelings to my children. When I think of that poor little girl all alone, cold and frightened, it breaks a small piece of me and with it being so close to home, it reminds me that it could happen anywhere, at any time, to anyone.

Holding your children close at night is a privilege. Sleepless nights, dealing with temper tantrums, fighting over tidying the playroom, sibling quarrels, school runs.

It’s all a privilege.

21 Comments

  1. hannah
    January 16, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    This is awful and is why i don’t like watching the news. It’s just full of bad stuff. The thing is there is a lot of good too in the world and all they seem to concentrate on is the bad stuff. It’s as though bad news sells papers x

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 10:19 pm

      I guess so Hannah.

  2. January 16, 2017 / 5:22 pm

    This was just so sad to read and worse still that the suggested culprit was just 15 x

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 10:20 pm

      I know right? Horrifying!

  3. January 16, 2017 / 4:50 pm

    This is absolutely heartbreaking and I cannot imagine the pain this mother and the rest of the family is going through. RIP Katie x

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 10:20 pm

      I don’t think anyone can lovely xx

  4. January 16, 2017 / 1:04 pm

    I felt such utter despair when I saw this report on the news. Life is so precious and I cannot understand how this even happened. Such a tragic loss. Rest in Peace Katie.

  5. January 14, 2017 / 11:37 pm

    This is just heartbreaking – I cried so much when I heard about Katie. Theres not a 7 year old that isn’t innocent/ There’s definitely not one that deserves anything like this. So sad.

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 2:59 pm

      I know Helen, it’s devastating.

  6. January 13, 2017 / 11:47 pm

    It is just awful isn’t it….I held my girls a bit closer and for longer when I heard the news x #PoCoLo

  7. January 13, 2017 / 7:58 pm

    I tend not to watch the news or listen to the radio as I can be a bit over emotional but I did pause to listen to this on the radio instead of changing station. It’s awful that it happened and it must have struck a big cord for you due to it’s location and the age of the child in comparison to yours. I am shocked that these things can be done by other children.

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 3:01 pm

      I know Melanie, I think that is what makes it worse 🙁

  8. January 13, 2017 / 5:05 pm

    Im glad i read as i was feeling sorry for myself after a C*ap day and very testing children and i was about to write a moany post about ‘poor me’ but after reading this post it’s kind of put things into perspective. What a really sad situation.

  9. January 13, 2017 / 3:06 pm

    It is so sad, I dead to think what her poor parents are going through. A teenager was murdered on Christmas Eve where I live in an unprovoked attack in a pub and I felt awful about it. when things happen close to home to children a smiliar age to your own it really makes you stop and think about what a cruel world we live in at times X

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 3:04 pm

      Oh how awful 🙁

  10. Dani
    January 13, 2017 / 1:54 pm

    Oh this is such a sad story 🙁
    Sometimes it takes something to really hit home to make you appreciate what you have. My thoughts go out to her family.

    Dani x

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 3:02 pm

      Terrible isn’t it 🙁

  11. January 13, 2017 / 1:21 pm

    This was such a sad story to read in the news. I can’t imagine what her parents must have been through, and definitely think it really hits home how lucky most are to have their children safe and well.

    • Harriet January 16, 2017 / 3:04 pm

      Absolutely Milly x

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